After researching clients for a decade, studied the patterns, and picked up my own missing pieces, I saw that most of us have the same collective wounding.  Don't be too much (which keeps us living in anxiety or perfectionism) or you're not enough (which keeps us in consumerism, harmful comparison, and not loving ourselves no matter what we do!!) This PRESSURE keeps us from breathing fully because we are living in the corset of calm and the Spanx of sadness because then we don't feel a damn thing. Our pleasure is shut down, our hearts are closed, and we are disembodied. ​